生命中的那個“她”

Tomorrow you may get a working woman[職業女性]， but you should marry her with these facts as well.

Here is a girl， who is as much educated as you are； who is earning almost as much as you do；

One， who has dreams and aspirations[抱負] just as you have because she is as human as you are；

One， who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your sister havent， as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession[讓步] to girls for their culinary[烹飪的] achievements；

One， who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters， almost as much as you do for 20 to 25 years of her life；

One， who has bravely agreed to leave behind[丟下] all that， her home， people who love her， to adopt[接受] your home， your family， your ways and even your family name；

One， who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from Day One， while you sleep oblivious[遺忘的] to her predicament[窘況] in her new circumstances， environment and that kitchen；

One， who is expected to make the tea， first thing in the morning， and cook food at the end of the day， even if she is as tired as you are， maybe more， and yet never ever expected to complain； to be a servant， a cook， a mother， a wife， even if she doesnt want to； and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her； and is clumsy[笨拙的] and sloppy[粗心的] at times and knows that you wont like it if she is too demanding[苛求的]， or if she learns faster than you；

One， who has her own set of friends， and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too， those， who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners[將……擱置一邊] to avoid your irrational[不合理的] jealousy， unnecessary competition and your inherent[內在的] insecurities；

Yes， she can drink and dance just as well as you can， but wont， simply because you wont like it， even though you say otherwise；

One， who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines[截止期限]， just like yours， are to be met；

One， who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success， if you just help her some and trust her；

One， who just wants one thing from you， as you are the only one she knows in your entire house—your unstinted[不吝嗇的] support， your sensitivities[敏感性] and most importantly—your understanding， or love， as you may call it.

But not many guys understand this，

Please appreciate[領會] HER.

明天你也許會迎娶一位職業女性，但你也應該迎娶隨她而來的這些事實：

有個女孩，接受過和你一樣高的教育，掙幾乎和你一樣多的錢；

她，和你一樣擁有夢想和抱負，因為她和你一樣都是普通人；

她，和你或你的姐妹一樣，從未進過廚房，因為她忙于學習和競爭，廚藝好并不能給她在這個系統帶來競爭優勢；

她，和你一樣，從出生的20到25年來，與她的父母、兄弟姐妹一起生活，并且深愛著他們；

她，勇敢地同意拋下一切，離開自己的家，離開深愛她的人，去接受你的家、你的家庭、你的生活方式，甚至是你的姓氏；

她，從第一天起就不知怎地，成了人人期待的大廚，而你卻在睡夢中忽略了她在新的處境、環境和那個廚房的窘境；

她，早上起床的第一件事就得為你泡茶，一天將盡的時候得為你煮飯，盡管她和你一樣疲憊，或許比你更疲憊，卻不允許有一絲怨言；她要當仆人、廚師、母親、妻子，即使她并不想當；還要學著成為那個你想要她成為的人；有時還要表現得笨手笨腳、粗心大意的，因為她知道你不喜歡她太苛求，或者學得比你還快；

她，有自己的朋友圈，包括她學生時代就認識的男孩和一些工作場合的男人，她都把他們擱置一邊，以免引起你無理的嫉妒、不必要的競爭心理和內心的不安。

是的，她的酒量和舞技和你一樣好，但她不喝酒也不跳舞，僅僅因為你不喜歡，哪怕你不說；她，有時也會因為工作而晚回家，因為她和你一樣，需要在截止期之前把工作完成；

她，正在竭盡全力，讓她一生中最重要的這段關系獲得巨大的成功，只要你肯幫她，信任她；

她，只想從你身上得到一樣東西，因為你是整個房子里她唯一認識的人——你毫不吝嗇的支持，你的在乎，最重要的是——你的理解，或者你也可以稱之為愛。但沒有多少男人能理解這個道理，請領會“她”。