學會控制情緒

王平平

The tides advance; the tides recede. Winter goes and summer comes. Summer wanes and the cold increases. The sun rises; the sun sets. The moon is full; the moon is black. The birds arrive; the birds depart. Flowers bloom; flowers fade. Seeds are sown; harvests are reaped. All nature is a circle of moods and I am a part of nature and so， like the tides， my moods will rise; my moods will fall.

It is one of nature’s tricks， little understood， that each day I awaken with moods that have changed from yester- day. Yesterday’s joy will become today’s sadness; yet to- day’s sadness will grow into tomorrow’s joy. Inside me is a wheel， constantly turning from sadness to joy， from exultation to depression， from happiness to melancholy. Like the flowers， today’s full bloom of joy will fade and wither into despondency， yet I will remember that as today’s dead flower carries the seed of tomorrow’s bloom so， too， does to- day’s sadness carry the seed of tomorrow’sjoy.

And how will I master these emotions so that each day will be productive？ For unless my mood is right the day will be a failure. Trees and plants depend on the weather to flourish but I make my own weather， yea I transport it with me. If I bring rain and gloom and darkness and pessimism to my customers then they will react with rain and gloom and darkness and pessimism and they will purchase naught. If I bring joy and enthusiasm and brightness and laughter tomy customers they will react with joy and enthusiasm andbrightness and laughter.

潮起潮落，冬去春來，夏末秋至，日出日落，月圓月缺，雁來雁往，花開花謝，草長瓜熟，自然界萬物都在循環往復的變化中，我也不例外，情緒會時好時壞。

這是大自然的玩笑，很少有人窺破天機。每天我醒來時，不再有舊日的心情。昨日的快樂變成今天的哀愁，今天的悲傷又轉為明日的喜悅。我心中像一只輪子不停地轉著，由樂而悲，由悲而喜，由喜而憂。這就好比花兒的變化，今天枯敗的花兒蘊藏著明天新生的種子，今天的悲傷也預示著明天的快樂。

我怎樣才能控制情緒，以使每天卓有成效呢？除非我心平氣和，否則迎來的又將是失敗的一天?；ú輼淠?，隨著氣候的變化而生長，但是我為自己創造天氣。我要學會用自己的心靈彌補不足。如果我為顧客帶來風雨、憂郁、黑暗和悲觀，那么他們也會報之于風雨、憂郁、黑暗和悲觀，而他們什么也不會買。相反的，如果我們為顧客獻上歡樂、喜悅、光明和笑聲。

And how will I master my emotions so that every dayis a happy day？ I will learn this secret of the ages： Weak ishe who permits his thoughts to control his actions; strong ishe who forces his actions to control his thoughts. Each day，when I awaken， I will follow this plan of battle before I amcaptured by the forces of sadness， self-pity and failure.

If I feel depressed I will sing.

If I feel sad I will laugh.

If I feel ill I will double my labor.

If I feel fear I will plunge ahead.

If I feel inferior I will wear new garments.

If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice.

If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come.

If I feel incompetent I will remember past success.

If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals.

Today I will be master of my emotions.

Henceforth， I will know that only those with inferiorability can always be at their best， and I am not inferior.There will be days When I must IN THE WORLD constantly struggle against forces which would tear me down. Thosesuch as despair and sadness are simple to recognize butthere are others which approach with a smile and the handof friendship and they can also destroy me. Against them，too， I must never relinquish control.

If I become overconfident I will recall my failures.

If I overindulge I will think of past hungers.

If I feel complacency I will remember my competition.

If I enjoy moments of greatness I will remember moments of shame.

If I feel all-powerful I will try to stop the wind.

If I attain great wealth I will remember one unfedmouth.

If l become overly proud I will remember a moment ofweakness.

If I feel my skill is unmatched I will look at the stars.

我怎樣才能控制情緒，讓每天充滿幸福和歡樂？我要學會這個千古秘訣：弱者任思緒控制行為，強者讓行為控制思緒。每天醒來當我被悲傷、自憐、失敗的情緒包圍時，我就這樣與之對抗。

沮喪時，我引吭高歌。

悲傷時，我開懷大笑。

病痛時，我加倍工作。

恐懼時，我勇往直前。

自卑時，我換上新裝。

不安時，我提高聲音。

窮困潦倒時，我想象未來的富有。

力不從心時，我回想過去的成功。

自輕自賤時，我想想自己的目標。

總之，今天我要學會控制自己的情緒。

從今往后，我明白了，只有低能者才會江郎才盡，我并非低能者，我必須不斷對抗那些企圖摧垮我的力量。失望與悲傷一眼就會被識破，而其它許多敵人是不易覺察的。它們往往面帶微笑，卻隨時可能將我們摧垮。對它們，我們永遠不能放松警惕。

自高自大時，我要追尋失敗的記憶。

縱情得意時，我要記得挨餓的日子。

洋洋得意時，我要想想競爭的對手。

沾沾自喜時，不要忘了那忍辱的時刻。

自以為是時，看看自己能否讓風駐足。

腰纏萬貫時，想想那些食不果腹的人。

驕傲自滿時，要想到自己怯懦的時候。

不可一世時，讓我抬頭，仰望群星。

And with this new knowledge I will also understand and recognize the moods? of him? on whom? I? call. I will make allowances for his anger and irritation of today for he knows not the secret of controlling his mind. I can with- stand his arrows and insults for now I know that tomorrow he will change and be a joy to approach.

No longer will I judge a man on one meeting; no longer will I fail to call again tomorrow on he who meets me with hate today. This day he will not buy gold chariots for a penny， yet tomorrow he would? exchange his home? for? a tree. My knowledge of this secret will be my key to great wealth.

Today l will be master of my emotions.

Henceforth I will recognize and identify the mystery of moods in all mankind， and in me. From this moment I am prepared to control whatever personality awakes in me each day. I will master my moods through positive action and when I master my moods I will control my destiny.

I will become master of myself.

I will become great.

有了這項新本領，我也更能體察別人情緒的變化。我寬容怒氣沖沖的人，因為他尚未懂得控制自己的情緒，就可以忍受他的指責與辱罵，因為我知道明天他會改變，重新變得隨和。

我不再只憑一面之交來判斷一個人，也不再因一時的怨恨與人絕交，今天不肯花一分錢買金蓬馬車的人，明天也許會用全部家當換樹苗。知道了這個秘密，我可以獲得極大的財富。

今天我學會控制情緒。

我從此領悟人類情緒變化的奧秘。對于自己千變萬化的個性，我不再聽之任之，我知道，只有積極主動地控制情緒，才能掌握自己的命運。

我成為自己的主人。

我由此而變得偉大。